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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/11/07 06:54:30 AM

Age 52, ND

Great Article , Ingrid ! I do agree that even stay at home women are stressed . But having both worked out and being a stay at home wife , I can say the stress is not as bad as that of trying to do a constant juggling act to make time for everything . We live modestly and have no big nest egg for retirement . But we have a happy marriage and love spending time together . In every aspect of our life we must not look to society but to the Bible . What foundation is laid according to Scripture for women ? Do we believe our Father knows best ? Quite frankly , I know I cannot do everything a man can do , nor do I want to . I enjoy being the woman that God made me to be , And for me that means getting up at 5 am to make my husbans breakfast , have morning devotions with him , kissing him goodby and knowing his day started out knowing at home there is love . And all day he looks forward to coming home ...btw we just celebrated our 34 th anniversary . Praise God ! I would be interested in seeing some stats on divorce rates of couples who were both working out of the home and homes where the woman did not work outside of the home. I think there would be a noticable diffrence .
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/11/07 06:50:47 AM

Age 52, ND

Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/07/07 05:05:05 PM

Age 45, AL

Titus 2 "let the younger women be keepers at the home" God's word is timeless, his word never changes!!! I was that mom who had a job, with two small kids, worked and came home snapping at my family. I was listening to Christian radio, one day they were talking about homeschooling. I eventually quit work and went to become a 1 income family. I have no regrets. Yes, we could have a bigger house, fancier cars, etc. But I wouldn't trade being home with the kids and the peace that I have. There is a season for everything. You only have your children for 18-20 years and then they grow up. Why waste it pursuing a career? There will be time for the job later. Don't your children and husband deserve the best years of your young adult years?
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/04/07 03:46:43 PM

Age 31, MN

Reading the feedback posted, it really surprises me that so many people, especially fundamentalists in any religion, assume that working mothers do so because they are greedy, in search of materalistic things, think staying home is boring, that their kids aren't worth their careers, etc. It's pretty easy to make sweeping generalizations, isn't it? We don't eat out, buy new clothes, have new cars, take expensive vacations or have hardly any disposable income. I work three days a week to buy food, diapers, any pay utilities. Until you walk in someone else's shoes, it is immoral and irresponsible to assume negative things about them. This is the underlying problem with fundamentalists of any religion - sweeping generalizations about people who are different.
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/04/07 08:44:42 AM

Age 50, FL

The hardest part is that the church is NOT teaching anything different..it is preaching that having material things is the sign of God's blessing. Very few churches are using Titus for the model of the family...instead it's "Mom go to work and we'll set up a daycare to give your babies a 'Christian' place to be while you're gone all day." Putting the stamp of 'Christian' on something does not negate the fact that someone else is raising the children instead of the parents. It's heartbreaking.
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/04/07 08:32:40 AM

Age 41, OH

While I agree with the article on stressed out moms, I think it simplifies the issue. I am a stressed out mom who does not work outside of the home. I know MANY such moms. On occasion, I have even been a little envious of those moms who do work outside of the home because they seem to have more time. How is this possible? Well, because they work, they are "exempt" in the eyes of many people from so many of the items that occupy my time. Since I am the daughter-in -law that does not work, I am responsible to take care of my sickly in-laws. Since I do not work, the church feels they can ask me to head up or work in ministries because in their eyes I have the time. The list is endless. I have, however, homeschooled my children through 12th grade. This takes time and energy. I have also led homeschool groups for more years than I can count. Somehow this "work" does not count in the eyes of working women or the church. When I ask others for help with a ministry or project, those who work outside of the home do not help. They have an excuse - "Sorry, I work". It's the burned out stay at home moms that always come to the rescue. While I understand that those who work outside the home are under stress, those who stay home are in just as much danger of being burned out moms. I think it's time the church and others recognize this.
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/03/07 09:09:38 PM

Age 47, GA

People seem to say to me all the time that you can't live on one income these days, that things are just different and so pricey. Then I think on my simple upbringing, like in this article, and on my husband and I's simple beginnings. We bought a virtual shack with borrowed downpayment money, fixed it up with paint and lots of elbow grease and help from anybody we could barter with. We did not know how to do anything when we got married, but now after 25 years of marriage we can do most anything and our 4 children who are grown can also do anything. I've always had little cottage industries out of my home to help out with extras like lessons and thing. I recently went back to work after my husband's illness and I saw the chaos and lack of serenity in our home begin to mushroom. The problem today is not that things cost so much. It's that we're not content with the simple things.
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Posted On: 10/04/07 02:22:44 PM Age 54, OK
Situations vary per individual, family, location, etc. But to deny that rising prices are a major issue is to be seriously uninformed. There are numerous articles addressing this reality. Real estate is just one example, having advanced three to one over income since the 70s, and that was before the "boom" the past five years or so. A simple spreadsheet shows how quickly real costs add up. It's more than trying to live simply. There are many variables. For us having to move to follow our job caught us priced out of the housing market. We're in a bind only greater income can fix.
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/03/07 08:12:04 PM

Age 20, KY

Nice article. I'm 20, married and have a 10 month old son. We manage to survive in a two bedroom apartment, both work part time and go to school full time. We're both straight A and B students. This is what one would call being responsible, and most people our age just want to get drunk and live loose.
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/03/07 05:57:27 PM

Age 51, MO

I can agree with this article, but why blame "feminists?" No one forces a women to work, that is a choice they make. I thought individual responsibility was a bedrock conservative value. Would you prefer to return to the days when women couldn't get certain jobs? or get a bank account or credit in their own name? How about the pre sufferage days?
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Posted On: 10/04/07 02:53:06 PM Age 28, TX
In case you'd forgotten, the notion of comfortably middle-class moms working outside of the home was one put about by none other than feminists. Conservatives weren't terribly interested in having the job market glutted, wages depressed, homes abandoned, and children shipped off to all-day indoctrination. So, in actuality, Ingrid is correct in blaming the feminists for the impending collapse of about half of our population. (And incidentally, you're probably not from Texas. We here HAD all those rights even before the feminists came in and declared themselves needed.)--Mrs. Pilgrim
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Re: Stressed Out Moms: Feminism's Dirty Little Secret

Posted On: 10/03/07 05:07:19 PM

Age 49, OH

I really agree with this article. My husband and I both wanted me to stay home with our children (3 girls)...with doing this right from the beginning we were use to just one income. I never regretted that decision. It is hard when a husband and wife both work and then a baby comes and the mother wants to stay home with her child. Going down to one income is a big change and sacrifices may have to be made, but it can be done as two of my daughters have done this since they started their families. It isn't always easy, but it is so worth it in the long run. The most important thing to me was for my daughters to grow up and live for the Lord and they do. Now they are passing their heritage on to their children. Our choices do have an impact on our children's spiritual lives. thank you for writing about this topic.
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