Yeah, sure.
| Posted On: 07/29/08 10:30:29 PM |
Age 19, DC |
An idealistic way to live (if your frontal lobotomy was successful), but the reality is that all people are capable of equality in thought and beyond; the majority of men who would be willing participants in this nowadays more than likely have control issues, as for women, self-esteem issues aren't virtues either.
Click here to reply to this post
|
wow
| Posted On: 07/19/08 10:23:33 PM |
Age 23, NY |
I can't believe you think that women are better off submitting to an alcoholic husband than leaving him or making their own decisions.
Is divorce so bad that you are willing to make your children live with an abusive man? I pity the kids who are sacrificed by the woman too scared to make a choice for herself - not only must they grow up with the knowledge that they have a drunk, negligent father, but also that they have a passive, negligent mother who ignored their suffering. I would hope that any woman that makes that decision for her innocent children is ready to live with their permanent emotional and mental damage.
Click here to reply to this post
|
Good point ...
| Posted On: 07/14/08 08:30:00 AM |
Age 21, MA |
"Just because you were raised a certain way and brought up to believe certain things, it doesn't mean they are right."
Now there's some insight, Deej.
Click here to reply to this post
|
Oh my...
| Posted On: 06/05/08 01:37:13 PM |
Age 32, WA |
Submissive isn't a four letter word. It's a 10 letter word that offends me more than any four letter word in existance. I love my husband. I love God. I love my daughter and I love her so much that I would never in a million years behave in a way that would make her believe that I, as a mother and wife, am any less important in my decisions and opinions than her father. Nor would my husband have it that way. He fell in love with me for who I am; independent and intelligent with a keen sense of decency and morality. We are equals. That is not my ego making that choice, it's common sense. If my husband decided it was a good idea to jump off a cliff, you'd better believe I would stop him from it. If my husband made the decision to sell our home and worldly goods to take up sheep hearding in Northern Scotland, I'm gonna put a stop to it. Just because he was born with a set of "x" chromosomes does not make him any more capable than myself to make decisions regarding ourselves and our family. When our time comes to meet our Maker, I will not be standing meekly by while my husband answers to God for our actions as a family. I will be standing right next to him, with a smile on my face and my conscience clean. God gave me a mouth, he gave me a brain, he gave me my wisdom and my patience. He gave me my life. Never in a million years would I have the audacity to keep those things to myself if God gave them to me to use.
Click here to reply to this post
|
Choose your mate wisely
| Posted On: 05/27/08 12:46:56 PM |
Age 39, OH |
I think the most important thing is to choose a husband that has the innate leadership abilities of a good husband, and also a spirit of gentleness. Women get married by a certain age because they think they should, and some times unwisely. Leadership is one thing, control and abuse is another. God gave you a brain for a reason, use it. My husband and I are equal partners with different roles. Women have an identity beyond being a wife and mother. That's the person that God craves in you - your true self. I trust my husband's judgment, but I would never allow him to lord over me or squash who I am as a person. But I know he would never do that, because he loves me. And love is the key word.
Click here to reply to this post
|
Oh snap!!!
| Posted On: 05/26/08 12:50:43 AM |
Age 27, IL |
If ignorance is bliss, willfull ignorance must be absolute euphoria, according to CCB! And why hasn't she just taken her husband's last name, rather than merely adding it on to her maiden name? I thought this was part of the game of being a submissive woman. Or, is she putting her professional worries (name recognition) ahead of her God?
Click here to reply to this post
|
Thank you for your witness, Candace
| Posted On: 05/04/08 03:36:33 PM |
Age 46, CO |
I am so impressed by your wisdom. You're still such a young woman. (You are to me, at least.) It is clear that you are guided by the Spirit as you write articles and answer questions. The truth of your messages ring true in my heart, and I know they are echoing the voice of God.
I just wish everyone had ears to hear His truth. I can hear that you're saying the main point of being a submissive wife is to achieve a mutually satisfying balance in the marriage. You put it perfectly when you said the roles of husband and wife are designed to be equal, but not the same. Did all you other readers get that part? Equality does NOT mean being identical. It means being perfectly complimentary to one another, like two puzzle pieces. It means dovetailing yourselves so that you create the strongest possible point of connection upon which the rest of your household can be built! Each partner has a role to fill, and they should do so with love and respect -- in both directions. If you show humility, love, and respect, no one will be lording over nor knuckling under to the other.
Candace, the way you describe your marriage is EXACTLY the relationship every husband and wife should strive for. I'm sure you and Valeri have your challenges, as do we all, but what's important is that you have a structure and a protocol you know to fall back on. Neither of you has to wonder for very long how to deal with a problem or conflict. You pray, and you respect your job descriptions. It's pretty much that simple! And you pray again whenever you find it hard to live up to that description, and you just work through it in faith.
Mutual humility really is the key. It sounds like Valeri truly understands the meaning of being a servant-leader, never abusing his authority in the household. If I'm right about that, then you are genuinely blessed as a wife and mother, because your husband loves you as Christ loves the church: sacrificially. I do hope he knows what a treasure he has in you, too.
May God richly bless you, your family, and your ministry. :-)
Oh, and P.S., I just have to say you are still as cute as a li'l ol' button!! Again, Val is a lucky guy!
And P.P.S., I also can't resist casting my vote for you to get back into TV movies, once your kids are older. We need more Christians on the airwaves, participating in wholesome entertainment. Be sure to keep your name on the lips of the Hallmark Channel execs for the next 10 or 12 years! That'd a great place for you to work, if they have the right script. Maybe they'd be interested in doing a remake of "Though None Go With Me." Even better, a new series of TV movies of the Little House books directed by Michael Landon, Jr., with you playing Caroline Ingalls! That would be AWESOME! Otherwise, maybe pass the idea on to Kirk, and he and Chelsea would want to play Charles and Caroline. Something to think about, eh?
Click here to reply to this post
|
Submissive is not a four letter word
| Posted On: 04/16/08 02:30:16 PM |
Age 23, MI |
submissive is not a four letter word but a nine letter word that women have been foolishly led into. Women have to submit to men. THat is what the bible says. Should we as women live our lifes because one person's idea?? We as women have been fighting for our rights and if we submit to a higher authority, isn't a slap in the face to Elizabeth Cady Stanton or Susan B. Anthony? By submitting to a male, it makes women second class citizens again. We have been second class citizens all of our time. We did not get the right to vote till 1920. African Ameican men had the right to vote before women. Marriage is EQUAL partnership, but does one have to have the final decission?? NO, it should be an EQUAL decission, but the man's. We as women have been suffering under a male's authoriy. I would like people to describe being submissive without the help of the bible.
Click here to reply to this post
|
Submissive is not a 4 letter word
| Posted On: 04/03/08 10:55:47 AM |
Age 47, NE |
The question is not about equality or inequality, it's about whether or not you accept God's Word as the authority for your life. As a woman who graduated three times from a state university -- culminating in a Ph.D. in education, I can tell you that Christian women have a serious choice to make. It's not an easy one, especially after decades of indoctination contrary to Scripture. But because I know that God's mercies are new, each day I consciously make the decision to do life God's way. Moses told us that God's Word is "life unto you."
Click here to reply to this post
|
Re: Submissive Is NOT a Four Letter Word
| Posted On: 07/25/07 11:32:37 AM |
Age 24, MO |
Wow, Candace, that is one of the very best articles I have ever read on submission. I thank God for you!
Click here to reply to this post
|
Read More Feedback
|
|
|
